Friendship Fridays

It is time for Friendship Fridays again. Last time I wrote about my dear friend Jamie. This time, I will be writing about her sister. As I said before, Jamie and I have been friends for a long time and I have had adopted her family as mine, and they adopted me too!! So I got another sister, who I love very dearly – Kelly.

I have known Kelly as long as I have known her sister, about 16 years, but we didn’t become super close until the last few years. And now I consider her a sister, one of my best friends, a wonderful mom, a generous heart, a great confidant, and in general someone who I respect and love very much.

Kel and her wonderful hubby!

One of the special things about our friendship is that we have children similar ages, so we get to talk about mom stuff but that is not what our friendship is wholly based on. We talk about work, the guys, friends, anything we feel like, and conversation always flows freely.

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Kelly is one of those moms who make it look easy. She breezes through the hard times, laughs at adversity, and smiles in the face of sleepless nights and teething. I know she has the rough times just like the rest of us do, but the way she handles it is inspiring and admirable.

Kelly was also there for the birth of both my girls, not right in the room, her shifts didn't quite coincide with the births, but within a couple hours she was there. She also had a hand in naming Gracie.

Every now and then Kelly and I take a break together, out for lunch, getting pampered at the salon, and our next trip out is getting waxed. I am thinking of switching that one and spending a day at the mall together! I do think it is important to take breaks from your family, and what better person to do it with than a dear friend?

Another thing I owe to Kelly is learning how to swim. I am afraid of putting my face in the water, and many years ago, when Kelly and her sister were house sitting a lovely house with a pool in it, she loosened up my nerves with a few drinks and in the pool we went (I know, probably not a good plan, but it worked!!) She was patient, I was a pain, but she did manage to teach me how to not drown and I can now swim across the pool and back, thanks to her.

I love having someone in my life who is going through similar things, has similar values, thoughts and ideas. She has similar insecurities, we have similar senses of humor, and if I call worried, upset or scared about something, she understands and is such a good listener. I can only hope that I am half the friend she is to me, and I know I don't tell her enough, but I love her so very much, just like a sister.

Kellys kids and my kids attacking me! :) I love it

Emotional days

Well here I am, not sure how to write this blog today. I am not sad, I am happy and relieved. Yet I am not happy and relieved I am quite sad. How can a person feel so polar opposite about one thing?? I am not sure, but there it is.

We had a doctors appointment yesterday where hubby had a nice "manly talk" with our doctor. He has been humming and hahing about getting a vasectomy, not sure that is what he wanted to do, since it is so permanent and takes a part of himself away etc. Now at the time I didn't really understand why he wasn't all for it. During my pregnancies I have had pregnancy induced hypertension and with Alysha it got quite bad and in fact I am still on blood pressure medication for it. Although at the doctors appointment yesterday my prescription was lowered so hopefully I am weaning myself of the medication. So I knew that it would be not a good decision to get pregnant again. Either way Hubby asked about the risks of me getting pregnant again, and the doctor told us that it would not be a wise decision and he does not recommend it at all. I would be on bed rest in the hospital for months and even then serious complications could arise, such as stroke or death, so therefore that is it, we are done, no more children.

Now like I said, I was pretty convinced before that I shouldn't have more children, even if I wanted more, which I don't. Hence the feeling of relief, that I am not just giving excuses that I don't want more children, I really can't.

But I know now too that hubby would have liked to try one more time for a boy, and I can't give him that. That option was taken away from me. Hence the feeling of sadness. I do sort of feel like part of my usefulness has gone, part of what I was made to do is gone. I do believe that God has shown us exactly what we need to do now, and that He will lead us and guide us, however there is that sadness there.

I do also understand where Hubby is coming from. He explained to me that he felt like it would be cutting a part of who he is away, He knows that he wouldn't be less of a man, or anything like that but just the mental part of taking that option away from himself, and now that I have had that option taken from me, I get it. And I also feel bad for him. After all he is a man, he doesn't know what it is like to go through Childbirth and procedures and embarrassing things, so that would make it harder too.

I just hope and pray that he does decide to go for the vasectomy, it is after all his decision. I think he will, he loves me and doesn't want anything bad to happen to me, but it won't be easy for him. But even more than before, I am scared of getting pregnant again, that would be horrible. I can't imagine missing almost a year of my kids lives, and what would we do.

I am not one of those who believe that God will take care of everything, okay that sounds not quite how I mean it, but I think we have to take responsibility for our actions. God told us to take care of our bodies, so we can choose not to take care of them. I think this applies to pregnancy as well.

Normal??

Well the chaos of the holidays are all over, my favorite time of the year gone.....it goes so fast!! We had a wonderful Christmas, however busy it might have been. It took us a week or so to recuperate and then the kids got terribly sick! I think it might have been the croup. After many sleepless nights, they seem to be on the mend now, just with coughs.

So now we are back to normal, whatever normal is.

I went wedding dress shopping on saturday for my sister-in-law.....she found a beautiful dress, I wish I could post it, but just in case on the slightest off chance her finacee reads this....I can't spoil it!!

We are hoping to go skating tonight, it has been so lovely and warm here, snow all melting. I think the kids are well enough.

Here are some pictures of the last few weeks, hope you enjoy and have a wonderful day!