Tuesday, March 19, 2013


One thing I’ve learned from Facebook, is that all of us are going through a lot of similar things.  When one mom complains of her child not napping, 5 more moms are there to say, “Mine too!”  When someone mentions her frustration with all the laundry piling up, we all do a  nod in agreement.  And when another complains of headaches, someone is there to say “I’ve been there and here’s what helped me.”

We all have common struggles with husbands, children, our work and stress load and just living life on planet earth.

Our puzzles are all different. 

One woman has a child with special needs while another is raising a gifted child. 
One woman has a romantic, sensitive husband while another has a husband who has anger issues and he screams and yells at everyone in the house. (Wait, isn't that me??)
One woman struggles to make ends meet while another is going on her third vacation of the year.
One woman has a husband who doesn’t work while another is married to a workaholic.
One woman has a husband who sleeps in his own bed and who calls everyday while another woman has a husband who is off to fight a war for weeks on end.
One woman is running a marathon while another suffers from a debilitating disease.

Our puzzles are all different.

And here’s the key…don’t think for one moment that the woman with the Coach purse on her arm (who is on her third vacation this year) has less problems than anyone else.  Her purse still holds junk–secret pain, dissatisfaction, and credit card receipts.

We’ve seen it on TV : famous music, television and movie stars commit suicide. Why?  They have it ALL!  Because life is hard and we all have struggles that beat us down and  fame, fortune, power, and even health and wealth can’t fill that empty void that God has placed inside of us that only he can fill.

All of our lives are filled with trials, hardships and times that truly no one else can understand.  I’ve even contemplated that hubby, who shares the same house, kids, marriage and trials as me, does not really understand — because he’s not married to himself!  He’s married to me…and that makes his puzzle different.

But Jesus…He sees and He knows.

Jesus understands.

He can sympathize with our struggles because He was born to die for us. It is hard for me to  imagine the struggles Jesus faced…because when I’m tempted, often times I just give in. For example, when my kids drive me nuts –I yell. Then I apologize. Or I need to comfort feed myself. I do, then I apologize.

Jesus felt temptation to the fullest degree because He did not give in. He suffered deeply for us.  We serve a God who understands.
Hebrews 4:15 says “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet he did not sin.”
Our God is not a distant God –He came near by dying on the cross for our sins and after he rose from the dead,  his last words on earth were, that he would send the Holy Spirit. The ultimate comforter to be with us, his children.
You do not walk this road alone. He is with you every step of the way. 
Some days it may feel like no one understands…until you hop onto facebook or a blog with a writer you relate to.  Often times I breathe a sigh of relief to find that my marriage is normal or my kids are normal!  My friends have helped me through some of my greatest common struggles…but comfort in my individual struggles, is harder to come by. And only found when I feel closest to my God.

Jesus said: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
He already knows your burdens.  You need rest…you might as well set down that burden and talk to Him about it.  I can guarantee you –He FULLY understands.


Anonymous said...

Very nice post - soooo true.........

jaksgirl said...
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jaksgirl said...

Beautiful post! As soon as I finished reading it, I had this song playing my head. We had (still have) this CD by "The Donut man". There's a song on there "cast your burdens", that I love. Even though it's geared for younger children and my kids have outgrown it, I still listen to it sometimes. I love it!!!

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Welcome to my blessed life!! Meet myself, a 32 year old stay at home momma. Meet hubby, who I have been married to for 14 years. We got married right out of high school, and while there have been many hardships, my husband is my best friend, and I wouldn't change a thing. We are living life with a 6 year old Grade oner, Gracie and 3 year old toddler, Alysha, which has its challenges, but we love every minute of it. God has blessed us with everything we need as well as tonnes of great friends and family.