Wednesday, April 17, 2013

The Wife of a Travelling Husband

I was missing hubby this morning as he has flown away for a week of orientation, and then I was browsing around other blogs of women whose hubby travels. And I have to say I am not so sure about this now. I don't want him gone, I like him here. We weren't miserable while he was coming home every night, and now I have to get used to him being gone over night a few times a month.  I then stumbled across this ladies blog and it made me feel better, gave me a goal to work towards. So I am going to post her link and basically just share it with you here.



"What I have learned from the experience of being without my husband is that I love my husband and that I’m thankful that he provides for his family. I am thankful for the job that God has provided to meet the financial needs we have. This is not to say that it is not difficult, and it certainly is not to say that I will never fail again. 

As a Christian wife, here are some things that you can do:

 
Pray pray pray over the situation. The purpose of prayer isn’t to manipulate God into what you want Him to do, but rather to humbly make your requests known and to seek His divine comfort and wisdom. Also, look for opportunities to gently ask your husband pray with you and with your family. 

Start by complimenting your husband often, being thankful and thanking him for the time you do have together. What do the Proverbs say about a contentious wife? Fill your conversations with grace. Breathe grace, sister. This can only come with filling yourself with the Word. Forgiving as you have been forgiven.

 
Find little ways to shower him with your love. Place notes in his lunch, emails, taping a note to the steering wheel of his car, meet him for lunch (go to him!) and get dolled up for him, go to his softball games and cheer for him! Last year, we bought pompoms at the dollar store and me and all five little kiddies went to my husband’s soccer games last season! I was thankful that it was motivating him to be more fit!

 
Ask your husband if there is anything you can do to be a helper to him- a helpmeet is one of our roles as wives. Showing your willingness to do this (really, this is a way to submit to your husband) will show him that it’s not just about you.

 
Turn contentment issues over to Christ – we are to be content in all circumstances. While you may not have control over your husband, contentment is your choice.

 
Plan a date-night on your master calendar – so that it’s on his calendar and yours. Do not sit around and bitterly wait for him to make the first move. Be considerate of what he would like to do on a date. Going antique shopping and having a quaint dinner is not cool with my husband. Going to a steakhouse and maybe to a kitchen store are my husband’s favorite activities. Plan it all down to the babysitter.

 
Broaden your perspective. Respectfully, there are women who rarely see their husbands or who would give anything to just sleep next to their husbands! My husband goes to Japan often – I was once without him for six weeks straight, while pregnant, with a number of small children at home. It was not easy. Please consider the ladies whose husbands are soldiers in a war zone – they are just thankful their husbands are alive!


Please, be thankful for and look for ways to work with what you already have."


Again over and over in the past few month I have been hit over the head with "Thankfulness" and "forgiveness" and I am going to move forward with this new job in the spirit of thankfulness. I know I will have down times, and times that I will miss  hubby, but we are so blessed that God has given us so much and now this opportunity for Hubby.

4 comments:

Barbara Morden said...

Reach out to friends or family during lonely times; nothin' like conversation, perhaps a game, whatever to help distract you. Also, thank God for social media these days (my generation didn't have) to while away those sometimes long evenings. You'll be fine if you give yourself permission to "enjoy" your time without hubby. Just a little added advice...LOL

Jamie said...

Great attitude and Ma's advice is great too!

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